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How To Build Up Your Child’s Self Esteem~

self esteemself love

Factors affecting children’s self esteem:

  • How much the child feels wanted, appreciated and loved
  • How your child sees himself, often built from what parents and those close say
  • His or her sense of achievement
  • How the child relates to others

Your child’s self esteem can be increased by you:

  • Appreciating your child Telling your child that you love them
  • Spending time with your child
  • Encouraging your child to make choices
  • Fostering independence in your children
  • Giving genuine importance to your child’s opinion and listening
  • Taking the time to explain reasons
  • Feeding your child with positive encouragement
  • Encouraging your child to try new and challenging activities

Appreciating your child:  A child’s self esteem will suffer if he or she is not appreciated. Children know if you are sincere or not. If you spend time together you must enjoy or there is no point. Show appreciation at all times. Tell your child you love him or her – this is appreciation. Thanking a child when he does something good is reward enough. Children like to please.

Encouragement : Esteem is boosted with your encouragement. Encourage decision-making……this will lead to a feeling of confidence and independence.

Praise: Self esteem comes from what you think about yourself, praise is external. I do not agree entirely with some who say praise creates kids addicted to it and then needing praise to feel good. Encouragement is better than praise. I was often told “could do better” and this lead me to feel no matter what I did it would not be good enough to please others.

Mutual respect: Children’s self esteem will be higher if you treat him or her seriously and with respect. Explain to the child everything and treat him as an intelligent individual able to understand and reach conclusions. You want to be treated like this and children are no different. A child who is belittled, patronized or put down will suffer lack of confidence. Mutual respect will foster trust and confidence.

Dealing with failure: If the child fails he must not feel a failure. Teach a child failure doesn’t exist, only temporary setbacks on the road to success. Never tell a child he has failed, let you down or cannot succeed. Be a mentor and help the child to believe in his or her ability to succeed no matter how long it takes!


Wishing You a Blessed Thanksgiving~



Hello! How are you? Are you hustling and bustling this week, or having some downtime?

I am lucky enough to be taking the downtime route, along with spending quality time with my sons just chit-chatting with them and watching them just be amazing brothers.

This is quite a gift, and I give God thanks for that. Tomorrow, we get to share a delicious meal and visit with family to savor and enjoy the festivities.

With an extra focus on gratitude this month, I get to ask my sons what they’re thankful for today.

My 14-year-old said he’s thankful that he has a nice mom…..(heh heh), family, and a nice brother to chill with.

My 19-year-old said he’s thankful for life, for a cool mom……(woooohooooo), family, a comfy home, food, and good health.

I love my sons!

They are my gifts from God and I am grateful for them, my family, health, water, my home, my students, my job that I love, my co-workers,

life, as well as the gift that God gave me of not worrying about things. I have the gift of letting things go and not letting things bother me. My beloved dad was the same, maybe I got this trait from him.

So, how about you…..what are you thankful for?

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